A Holiday More Commercial Than Valentine's Day – Anti-Valentine's Day

This year I’ve seen a lot more cynical responses to Valentine’s Day.  At least two restaurants I’ve recently visited — PJ Clarke’s in D.C. and Virtue in Alexandria, VA — are offering “Anti-Valentine’s Day” specials.  Presumably it’s to make singles feel more comfortable about going out on Valentine’s Day. 

In addition to the cynics, there’s also a push to celebrate your “independence” and singlehood.  From the blog “Diva – news and views for women”:

Valentine’s Day is best known as an occasion for cupid-struck couples to celebrate their love. But many singles are adamant to make the best of the day by spending it with their best friends and loved ones.

Recently single, Lina Sinclair will be spending Valentine’s in a girls’ night out.

“I am celebrating my independence. There is no reason why I should not have a good night out on Valentine’s Day, even if I am currently not romantically involved,” said the 21-year-old flight attendant.

Quality Assurance editor Chong Lee San believes that Valentine’s Day is to be celebrated by all, not just those in relationships.

“My best friend and I are just using the day as an excuse to do something special, to spend quality time together doing something fun,” said the 25-year-old.

The article goes on to suggest activities like a painting class, spa day or a pot-luck party with friends and family.  It also notes that several restaurants offer “singles only” tables.

As a woman who has been single for many Valentine’s Days, I don’t quite understand the need to celebrate if you’re single.  So what if it’s a holiday you don’t participate in?  I send cards to a few friends and family, but I’m not pining away at night wishing it were socially acceptable to eat dinner out on Valentine’s Day.  From what I’ve heard, it’s just another day to most couples, too.

But feel free to send me flowers and chocolates on Valentine’s Day or any other day of the year.