Mike Rowe on Finding Mr. Right

Forgive me, Convo readers, for another post linking to my book, Finding Mr. Righteous.  This time I have a point, I promise.  The point is that Mike Rowe is right about nearly everything.  He’s right about skilled trades.  He’s right about energy and jobs.  He’s even right about dating.  Mike Rowe wrote this response to a reader who is trying to decide on a career to pursue.  

I had drinks last night with a woman I know. Let’s call her Claire. Claire just turned 42. She’s cute, smart, and successful. She’s frustrated though, because she can’t find a man. I listened all evening about how difficult her search has been. About how all the “good ones” were taken. About how her other friends had found their soul-mates, and how it wasn’t fair that she had not. 

“Look at me,” she said. “I take care of myself. I’ve put myself out there. Why is this so hard?” 

“How about that guy at the end of the bar,” I said. “He keeps looking at you.” 

“Not my type.” 

“Really? How do you know?” 

“I just know.” 

“Have you tried a dating site?” I asked. 

“Are you kidding? I would never date someone I met online!” 

“Alright. How about a change of scene? Your company has offices all over – maybe try living in another city?”

“How about the other side of town? You know, mix it up a little. Visit different places. New museums, new bars, new theaters…?” 

She looked at me like I had two heads. 

“Why the hell would I do that?” 

Here’s the thing, Parker. Claire doesn’t really want a man. She wants the “right” man. She wants a soul-mate. Specifically, a soul-mate from her zip code. She assembled this guy in her mind years ago, and now, dammit, she’s tired of waiting!! 

I didn’t tell her this, because Claire has the capacity for sudden violence. But it’s true. She complains about being alone, even though her rules have more or less guaranteed she’ll stay that way. She has built a wall between herself and her goal. A wall made of conditions and expectations. Is it possible that you’ve built a similar wall?

It’s worth reading the full response (as the part I excerpted doesn’t specifically deal with career advice).  Now to convince Mike Rowe that he’s my Mr. Righteous…


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